The Comfort of A Tidy Home

by | Mar 26, 2026 | TCK musings

There is a particular kind of comfort in a tidy home. Not the kind that impresses guests or photographs well, but the quiet, almost invisible kind — the one that settles somewhere in your chest. I didn’t always understand why it mattered so much to me. I grew up in...

The slow unlearning of people-pleasing

by | Feb 13, 2026 | TCK musings

I didn’t become a people-pleaser because I was weak. I became one because I was paying attention. When you grow up across borders, you learn early how to read a room. You notice shifts in tone, posture, silence. You learn which version of yourself feels most welcome...
Sickness and Blackouts

Sickness and Blackouts

by | Apr 15, 2021 | Africa

(Lubumbashi, DRC – 1976) I kept on dozing on and off. When I woke up, we were being thrashed around in the back of a large jeep. Daddy was steadying me, Simon by Mummy. A few minutes later we arrived at a hotel. We walked into the lobby. There were two men sitting in...
Gum balls and Plane rides

Gum balls and Plane rides

by | Apr 5, 2021 | Africa

(Democratic Republic of Congo formerly known as Zaire – 1976) We had been playing with some bright coloured bubble gum balls that Mummy had brought home that morning. She had told us specifically not to touch them. But they looked so bright and tempting in their...